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How to maintain a long-distance relationship

Maintaining a long-distance relationship isn't easy. You miss each other, your routine can seem distant and sometimes the challenges seem greater than the love that unites you.

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But with dedication, creativity and the use of technology, it's possible to make distance a minor detail.

Here you'll find practical, humane and effective tips for strengthening connections and overcoming geographical barriers.

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Communicate Clearly and Frequently

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Communication is the basis of any relationship, especially long-distance ones. It's not just about quantity, but also quality.

  • Define Special Moments: Set fixed times to talk, whether by text or phone call. Having an expected time creates an affectionate routine.
  • Use Efficient AppsTools such as WhatsApp, Telegram, Zoom e Google Meet are indispensable for keeping the contact alive.
  • Share your thoughts and feelings: Diaries shared on apps such as Journey or Day One help maintain a deep emotional connection.

Make plans together

The shared future is the fuel for moving forward. Common goals and dreams reinforce the purpose of the relationship.

  • Plan visitsTools such as Skyscanner e Google Flights help find affordable tickets. To share expenses, the Splitwise is an excellent option.
  • Organize Tasks and Ideas: Apps such as Trello e Notion are great for creating wish lists and shared tasks.

Build and Maintain Trust

Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship, and at a distance it needs to be cultivated even more.

  • Share Routines: Applications such as Between allow you to create a private space for exchanging messages, photos and even activity calendars.
  • Honesty is the keyHiding it can create insecurity. Resolve conflicts transparently and always show genuine interest in the other person.

Surprise Yourself and Keep the Romance Alive

Keeping the flame burning requires creativity. Surprising your partner with unexpected gestures makes all the difference.

  • Virtual Gifts: Buy gifts in stores such as Amazon and send it directly to your loved one's address.
  • Romantic messages: Applications such as Lovebox allow you to send messages or emojis to a special physical device, reinforcing your daily affection.

Invest in Personal and Joint Growth

Being apart can be an opportunity for growth, both individually and as a couple.

  • Learn Something New: Take online courses on platforms such as Coursera or Udemy and share learning.
  • Fitness Challenges: Use apps like Strava or Nike Training Club to do physical activities together, even from a distance.
  • Respect Each Other's Space: Encouraging personal growth shows maturity and respect.

Dealing with Conflict in a Mature Way

Conflicts happen, but it's how we resolve them that defines the strength of the relationship.

  • Take it easyAvoid arguing over long messages. Use video calls to express your feelings clearly.
  • Practice empathyTry to see the situation from the other person's point of view before reacting.
  • Manage stress: Meditation apps such as Calm e Headspace can help relieve tension before solving a problem.

Make the most of technology

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Technology is a great ally for shortening the distance and creating special moments between couples.

  • Virtual Reality: Apps such as Bigscreen offer shared experiences, such as watching movies in a virtual environment.
  • Reminders of Affection: Use the Love Nudge to send daily reminders of love and appreciation.
  • Shared memories: Create digital photo albums together on platforms such as Google Photos.

Make Distance Temporary

Having a deadline for the distance is important for the emotional health of the couple.

  • Countdown Calendar: Apps such as Countdown+ help to mark the days until the next meeting, creating a sense of anticipation.
  • Creative Celebrations: Celebrate important dates with video calls or by sending surprise packages.
  • Keep Hope Alive: Constantly reinforce the idea that the distance is temporary.

Set Long-Term Relationship Goals

When you're in a long-distance relationship, the feeling of "being waited on" can be a little difficult to deal with.

But the truth is that distance can be a temporary phase that will only make sense if you both have a purpose.

Having long-term goals for the relationship not only helps to give direction to what is being built, but also strengthens trust.

Setting goals can be simple:

  • Living in the same cityIf the distance is geographical, making a plan of when to move near each other can help you to have a concrete goal.
  • Visit each other often: Schedule visits so that you know there will always be something to look forward to.
  • Growing togetherPerhaps one of you needs to finish a course or a work project before taking the next step in the relationship. Having these personal goals is also important, because individual growth will serve as an example for growth as a couple.

Cultivate Independence and Autonomy

Even though a relationship is a partnership, in long-distance dating, it's even more important that everyone maintains their independence.

Of course, this doesn't mean that the relationship is less important, but rather that it's healthier when you both have time to grow as individuals, as well as being together.

Here are some ways to maintain this autonomy:

  • Continue your social life: Keep your friends and allow yourself to have leisure time without your partner, helping you not to create pressure about always having to be available for each other.
  • Focus on your personal developmentStudy, work, pursue new personal projects. When both are fulfilled individually, the relationship is more balanced.
  • Room for nostalgia: Distance will naturally bring some moments of loneliness. Take advantage of these moments to spend time with your own interests and with what makes you feel good.

Lean on Moments of Loneliness or Longing

Longing can be one of the most difficult and challenging parts of a long-distance relationship. It comes as a surprise, sometimes even more so than we imagine or expect.

But instead of letting longing turn into frustration, seeing it as a sign that love is real can help. Loneliness can also be an opportunity for both of you to learn to deal with your feelings and support each other even more.

How to deal with homesickness?

  1. Share your feelingsIt's okay to admit that you miss your partner. Sometimes just talking about it helps to ease the pain. Encourage your partner to do the same.
  2. Offer support, even from afarWhen one of you is feeling sad or homesick, small gestures of affection can make all the difference. Sending a loving message, arranging a video call, or even sending something like a letter or a gift can bring comfort and strengthen the bond between the couple.
  3. Create new ways of connectingWatching a movie at the same time, having a meal together via video call or even setting a fixed time to talk every night can create a feeling of closeness.

Conclusion

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Maintaining a long-distance relationship is challenging, but not impossible. With love and patience, it's possible to overcome the difficulties and even strengthen the bond.

Take advantage of the tools that technology provides, invest in communication and remember that every effort is worthwhile when it comes to building something with the one you love.

Written by
Melissa Viana

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